Most of us have felt stuck at some point in our lives, right? Pobody’s nerfect, regardless of what you see on social media. But WHY?
You feel stuck when life is going differently than you want or expect. Maybe you feel you should be married with children but you haven’t found a partner yet, or you feel you should be further ahead in your career but you can’t see any opportunities in the near future. The key here is that you feel your life should be different from what it is.
FIVE THINGS TO REMEMBER WHEN YOU’RE FEELING STUCK
1. You may just be afraid.
Fear is an ugly monster. It blocks you from making progress. It convinces you that you have nothing to offer or worse – it convinces you to change who you authentically are in an attempt to fit in. Gross, right? Fear is awful if you give in to it.
Face your fear and reframe it. Fear attracts more fear, so shifting your mindset is important. Lean into your fear, embrace it and overcome. Here’s the thing: there’s no such thing as being FEARLESS. Anyone who says differently is lying to you. Or selling something. Or both. Probably both.
Fear lets you know you’re approaching the edge of your comfort zone. Dance with that sucka’ like the devil in the pale moon light.
2. Feeling stuck is just a feeling.
Listen. Feelings are your reaction to outside forces. Feeling stuck is no different. I’m not saying your feelings aren’t valid, but I am saying that you have the power to change it. People are so quick to give away their power and fall victim to their feelings. Knock it off.
I know I just said it, but your mindset matters, and when you view a situation as impossible – or impassable – you get stuck. Remember, you can’t change others. You’ll need to change how you approach the situation.
Journal. Get it all out. Word vomit all over the page. Once you get to the reason you’re feeling stuck, you can journal your way into a plan of attack.
3. You’re a lot less stuck than you think
Every person is one decision away from a totally different life. Tomorrow, I could shut this whole thing down and start a pet photography business. I probably won’t. But, ya know, maybe.
Make a decision. You always have a choice. If you’re having a difficult time making the decision, list the pros and cons and reevaluate. Strive for progress and not perfection. Just MAKE A DECISION.
But here’s the thing, YOU need to make the decision. Don’t poll others. This isn’t their decision. Asking your co-workers or friends what they think? That’s procrastination. That’s below-the-line thinking. No good. Decisions are made by YOU. They’re yours. Own them.
4. It doesn’t matter what other people think.
I set myself up perfectly for this one. Thanks, self. You’re the best.
Listen. You may have been raised to value the opinion of others; I know I was. And to a point, you should. But that point doesn’t extend to their opinion of you and your decisions. Making decisions based on your authentic self is far more important than what dear Aunt Sally is going to say about it.
While you should eliminate toxic people from your life, remember that not everyone who disagrees with you is toxic. Dear Aunt Sally might not understand your decision to move to Japan and teach English, but that doesn’t make her a toxic relationship.
In these cases, try to be understanding of why she feels the way she does – when she was young people didn’t just run off to Japan. They stayed home and made sandwiches for their husband while vacuuming. (I think? I don’t know much about stuff from before I was born.) But do not let her feelings impact your decisions or happiness. Do your thing. Move to Japan. Teach English to koi fish or whatever. I support you.
5. Be true to yourself.
Sometimes fear and the expectations or judgements of others can make you act like someone you aren’t. Being true to yourself can take work, especially if you’ve spent a long time wearing a mask to protect yourself. I get it. But accepting yourself is important. Like, SUPER important.
Accept yourself as you are right now. RIGHT NOW. Are you reading this in bed on your phone with unbrushed hair feeling like a total mess? Accept that. It’s fine. Full disclosure: I’m writing this with Day 3 Unwashed Hair. No apologies.
Identify your strengths and weaknesses and learn to accept those. It can be scary to take off your mask and really look in the mirror, I get it. That’s why I created this free workbook for you.
YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR HAPPINESS
Ultimately, this is all on you. I’m happy to coach you through it, if you’d like to work together, but you’ve got to commit and get your butt in gear. You have the power to make decisions, change your outlook and get yourself unstuck. You aren’t a turtle; you can right yourself.
Do you have any tips or tricks for getting unstuck? Share them in the comments below!